wrong beginnings

I've often wondered why certain relationships don't reach the level we desparately want them to achieve. Also wondered why some others soar to unexpected heights. Something I read in Wish's blog comes to mind- It's because every person comes into your life either for a reason, a season or a lifetime, and if you can fit each person in your life into these categories, more can be gained out of every relationship.

If only it was as simple as that... No person who came into my life has left me without leaving a mark for a life time. It hurts every time I think of the sad demise of a happy friendship with Minu. Now when I look around to make new friends in a new environment, every emotion within me responds warily. Who can explain why she became such an important part of my very personality and why she wrote me off when we disagreed on a silly matter? Conversely, why does Anish invariably stand by me through thick and thin, despite the fact that we barely ever see eye to eye? How's it that I and Suba don't disagree on anything? We've chatted for hours without a single dissimilarity of opinion or taste.

What is the formulae for a lasting friendship?
What is the kiss of death in a relationship?

After some serious contemplation, this is the conclusion I've reached -Some relationships have wrong beginnings- wrong expectations, wrong assumptions wrong foundations. No matter how hard you try, they will never last.